There are movies whose classic lines will be with us forever.
Who can forget the non-descript “Wa, wa, wa, wa, wa wa,” from Charlie Brown’s teacher?
Or who can keep from singing “just keep swimming, just keep swimming, what do we do, we swim, swim, swim” right along with Dory in Finding Nemo.
There’s “Frankly Scarlet, I don’t . . .” well, you know what Rhett Butler said in Gone With The Wind.
And how about this classic from Jerry McGuire (Please know that this is in no way me suggesting this movie. There’s a lot to it I don’t suggest. At all. Zero promotion happening here!) “You complete me.”
It is my personal opinion that lines like that & “and they lived happily ever after,” while we greatly enjoy them, have set us up to fail in marriage.
I know, I realize, I sound a bit dramatic, but just hear me out.
While I fully believe that God, the one who fashioned us in His image, created a part of our heart that can only be filled by our spouses; I fully believe we were never intended to let anyone complete us, other than Him.
You see, He is truly the only one who can fill us exactly as we want and/or need. We were made to be filled & overflowing with Him. Our spouses are an addition to that, not the substitution for it.
For He satisfies the longing soul,
And fills the hungry soul with goodness. Psalm 107:9
For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ,from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height— to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. (Emphasis mine) Ephesians 3:14-19
He wants to fill us with his love. For us to be saturated & our cup o’love to be full & running over. When we allow or even expect & demand our spouses to fill that spot, we are left longing & in want.
We cannot put an expectation upon our husbands that they were not created to fill.
Ladies, I encourage you, even challenge you this week, is there an area of your life that you are asking your husband to fill, that should rightly be filled by the Lord?
Will you remove the burden of pressure from your husband & allow God to fill you as He so greatly desires to do? And then watch your husband be free from the un-due pressure being placed on him.
Praying we will allow Him alone to fill us,
Barb I love this!! I am praying that I will allow Him and only Him to fill me, to complete me!! Wonderful post!!
Thanks Nicole! Me too! 🙂