I’ve pondered what I could possibly write here today that would be new, fresh, and inspiring.

And truthfully, I’ve got nothin’.

Sometimes, romance and passion in marriage is like that.


How often do you feel this same way?

If you’re in that place in your relationship with your hubby, you might be tempted to think that “the thrill is gone.”

You might be convinced that romance is for those who are younger, thinner, more beautiful, have more money, are more recently married, with fewer children and less stressful jobs (this list could go on and on, but we’ll stop here for now).

But those are lies from the enemy.

Here are some thoughts to ponder from Proverbs 5:15-20 (The Message):

 Do you know the saying, “Drink from your own rain barrel,
   draw water from your own spring-fed well”?
It’s true. Otherwise, you may one day come home
   and find your barrel empty and your well polluted.

 Your spring water is for you and you only,
   not to be passed around among strangers.
Bless your fresh-flowing fountain!
   Enjoy the wife you married as a young man!
Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose—
   don’t ever quit taking delight in her body.
   Never take her love for granted!
Why would you trade enduring intimacies for cheap thrills with a whore?
   for dalliance with a promiscuous stranger?

The Lord calls you a fresh-flowing fountain, lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose.  (And trust me, as your Creator, He knows exactly how to describe you!)

He also commands your husband to never quit taking delight in your body and to never take your love for granted.  That’s something to think about, isn’t it?  (How often are you guilty of deterring him from taking delight, hmm? I won’t ask for a show of hands!) 

Here’s what I think:  I think the Lord knew that as marriage continued through the years, there would be temptations for husbands to stray and for both husbands and wives to be critical of her aging body.

He knew that we would need to be reminded of the beauty of committed, marital love. 
Enduring intimacies.  This phrase evokes the image of something of great value.
So, although you might feel like the thrill has gone away, I believe that there is hope to be found in these verses.  
Just as we speak words of faith over ourselves and what God says about who we are in Christ and what our circumstances are when surrendered to Him, we should (begin to) speak words of faith over ourselves in this arena. 
Say to yourself (and to the Lord), “I (put your name here) am a fresh-flowing fountain, lovely as an angel, and beautiful as a rose and (put your hubby’s name here) doesn’t stop taking delight in my body.”  
Say it like you really mean it!  It is part of God’s Word and ALL of God’s Word is for us!
Don’t wait to say it ’till your emotions line up with what the Word says, but instead keep speaking of yourself as God sees you.  Ask your Creator to help you to see yourself this way and you will have actions that line up with God’s Word!   
And you just might find that the romance and passion that seemed so elusive in days gone by is much more readily at hand than you had realized.
And that, my dear wives, is something to be thankful for!
With love and prayers for renewed romance,