Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.
Matthew 7:1-5, ESV
Judgments. We all make them.
About circumstances, situations, choices.
Especially those whose circumstances, situations, and choices affect our lives.
Like a husband.
But, it’s not our job.
We’re not qualified.
In these verses, in fact, Jesus makes it very clear that we shouldn’t judge.
He poses a couple of very pointed questions:
“Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?”
“Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye?”
Then He calls one who does this a hypocrite.
Very convicting words.
Words that, when taken to heart, require repentance.
Ask the Lord what is the “log” in your own eye.
Then humble yourself and repent because, as James 4:6 says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”
And remember this part of James’ instructions in James 2:13, “For judgment is without mercy to one who has shown no mercy. Mercy triumphs over judgment.”
Ask the Lord to search your heart and show you where you are “missing it.”
He will. He longs for you to repent, to turn from your sin.
When you do this, you will receive mercy.
Then you can pour out that mercy to your husband.
You’ll be glad you did.
Praying for all of us to have mercy triumph over judgment,