Romance is a beautiful part of marriage that God ordained as good. The media and Hollywood think that they have the market on romance. They try to sell it, but I am not buying it!
The dictionary describes romance as:
to treat with ardor or chivalrousness; to treat with great warmth of feeling, fervor or passion.
This is definitely not what Hollywood or the media (magazines, advertisers, etc.) are promoting.
God’s Word teaches that romance is part of love. It is a beautiful way to be intimate with your spouse. Listen to these words of the wife to her husband (The beloved and the lover) from Song of Solomon 2:3-6:
Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my lover among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste. He has taken me to the banquet hall, and his banner over me is love. Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples, for I am faint with love. His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me.
Do you hear the emotion in the Beloved’s voice? The expression of love that comes from romance? She definitely has been treated with chivalry and ardor! She has been treated with such a great warmth of feeling that she is faint with love!
Remember being faint with love for your spouse?
Maybe the memories are distant.
It is time to rekindle the passion of romance in your marriage.
This is something I have to constantly remind myself. The flames of romance have to fanned and the embers stirred. I am not a romantic at heart. I constantly have to be intentional with romance.
But I take hope because the Lover of our Souls is an expert at romance! He created it and He woos us, His beloved bride, to Himself.
He teaches us to become the wives that He created us to be for our husbands. He teaches that love is “not self-seeking” ( see I Cor. 13:5).
Romance is about the other person. We practice romance to another person. It is a verb, not a dream or fairytale. To treat someone with romance takes effort. It is an emotional investment that comes through as sincerity in our actions.
As I practice romance with Keith I can honestly say that
“My lover is mine and I am his…” Song of Solomon 2:16a
Romance your husband, this week and in the weeks to come, and stir the flames of passion in the fire of your marriage.
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