I used to have the theory that if Bill was brazen enough to wrong me then he needed to be brazen enough to ask for forgiveness.

There was no need for me to say “I’m Sorry!” I. Did. Nothing. Wrong.  Sound familiar?

And yet, I was wrong!

My heart loved getting tangled in this crazy mess of  “you are wrong and I am right.” My heart was playing tricks on me.

The more I felt Bill was wrong, the more I felt I was right. What I did not realize is this; the need to be right all the time was causing my heart to harden against Bill.

God gives us warning signs aimed to convict the heart.

They are darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, due to their hardness of heart. Ephesians 4:18 ESV

Harden not your hearts, as in the provocation, in the day of temptation in the wilderness:  Hebrews 3:8 KJV

Indeed, in their case the prophecy of Isaiah is fulfilled that says: “‘You will indeed hear but never understand, and you will indeed see but never perceive. For this people’s heart has grown dull, and with their ears they can barely hear, and their eyes they have closed, lest they should see with their eyes and hear with their ears and understand with their heart and turn, and I would heal them.’  Matthew 13:14-15 ESV

Reading Gods word is so powerful that He is busy revealing the state of your heart to you right now.

Is your understanding darkened?

Have you heard God speak to you in a situation and you turned Him away?

Is your heart hardened to the very voice that died to set you free?

I learned a long time ago that my heart truly will play tricks on me. It will betray my soul fast. I had to get my emotions and heart under control and realize Bill was not the only one who was wrong.

There are even times I am the one who is wrong! I said it.  I. Am. Wrong!

Reading Gods word does this for me.

His voice, shining truth into the darkness sin creates, breaks the hold sin has on us!

It’s time to change and allow Gods Word to break the hardened walls in our hearts. Our husbands are so worth it!

Praying for your marriage,


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