I have learned some valuable lessons during my marriage. One of the most important comes from Psalm 46:10, “Be still, and know that I am God.” In the middle of one of the hardest moments of my marriage, the Lord spoke this verse to me. At the same time, the Holy Spirit began to help me understand what the verse means.
Bill was angry and fighting me for a divorce. But I kept saying No. This went on for more than a year. I was so weary and coming close letting go and letting him have his way. I was standing in the hallway looking at my reflection in the bathroom mirror. Bill was yelling at me and calling me every ugly name one could think of. If someone had been standing there with us they would have thought he hated me because his words were so fowl. I was trying to hang on and block what he was saying from reaching my heart. I had made a vow to God that I would fight for this marriage and not run from it. This meant in the hardest of moments, not just the easier ones.
I asked Him for help and I heard him reply, Be still and know that I am God.
Peace enveloped me and quieted Bill’s voice. Instantly, the Holy Spirit began to tell me what being still before God means.
1. I can trust that He sees everything. All of our going outs and coming ins: Psalm 121:8
“The LORD shall preserve thy going out and thy coming in from this time forth, and even for evermore.“
2. He loves me so much that His mind is continually on me and what I am struggling with: Isaiah 49:16
“See, I have engraved you on the palms of My hands; Your walls are continually before Me.“
3. He has a plan for Bill and me together not apart and is working even this very dark season for our good, to give us a future and to give us hope: Jeremiah 29:11
“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.“
4. If I am going to win this battle I have to keep my eyes focused on Jesus as I stand on my promise to let God teach me how to fight verses fighting it my way: Proverbs 4:25-27
“Let your eyes look directly forward, and your gaze be straight before you. Ponder the path of your feet; then all your ways will be sure. Do not swerve to the right or to the left; turn your foot away from evil.”
5. Trusting in my own thinking wasn’t helping either of us. I needed to trust in God’s and let go and put my whole heart in His hands.: Proverbs 3:5-6
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding;In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”
Is your story a lot like mine? Are you struggling now in your marriage? I would love to hear from you….. I pray sharing a small portion of our story gives you hope for yours!
Praying for every wife that reads this,