Ever since we rededicated our lives to the Lord, I’ve been waiting on my husband to lead us, waiting on our marriage to evolve. So many times I have prayed about my husband “stepping up” and being the leader of our home. I’ve prayed that God would show me what I need to do to be a better wife and be what He and my husband want.

I guess for so long I only thought I was submitting. I was submitting, but I was still complaining about it, so my heart really wasn’t submitted.  I still deterred everything he did or said because it wasn’t what I would do.

You brood of vipers, how can you who are evil say anything good? For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. ~ Matthew 12:34

To submit, we, as wives, have to step down and let our husbands lead. We need to stop complaining about how they lead just because it is different from the way we would lead. God made us as a helpmate for them, not to be like them. We are different, and that difference is one of the reasons we fell in love with our husbands in the first place.

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. ~ Ephesians 5:22

Once we finally submit to God by submitting to our husbands, there will be such a wonderful peace in the home. Things will go so much smoother and the communication will be so much better as well.

I’m not sure why I fought it so long, but at least I have finally gotten there! And I’m praying I will stay here! I feel like we are newlyweds again and I am loving this peace, love and joy that is going on in our house right now!!

Peace I leave with you; My peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. ~ John 14:27


About Nicole Andersen:

I am a Princess!!!  I am a daughter of the King!! I am the wife of a wonderful man who works hard to provide for our daughter and me.

Although I have always believed in God, I had a season of my life where I strayed away from Him.  My cousin’s strong faith as her son fought cancer inspired me to get back into church and develop an intimate relationship with Jesus.  I am still a work in progress.

Nicole serves The Imperfect Wives Ministry through prayer and working with the local club leaders.

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