If you’re a regular reader of our blog, you’ve noticed that I haven’t posted much here lately.
I’ve chalked it up to being busy, which is very true, but it’s really something else.
I haven’t believed that I have much to say right now, but I don’t think that’s exactly right, either.
I do have something to say, but it doesn’t exactly fit in with our usual message…you know, here at Imperfect Wives we talk about facing the challenges of life and marriage head-on, with faith and hope and trust in the Lord.
And I’m a little concerned {maybe afraid, even} that what I’m about to say won’t speak to your heart AT ALL.
But Cherie and I agreed that the Lord told us that 2013 is the year we are supposed to simply share straight from our hearts where we are right now. {That’s a pretty tall order sometimes.}
So, I have to tell you right where I am right now.
My husband, Robert, and I are doing really great. I mean really great.
We are just happy together and at peace with each other. There’s no drama, harsh words, or shed tears because we can’t seem to sort out what we’re going to do about important issues. Everything between us is easy.
Those of you who don’t know us might just be wondering if things have been really hard between Robert and me. The short answer is yes, sometimes. But we’ve also had plenty of really good times over the past 23 years.
Lately, though, things have been particularly sweet.
I can’t point to anything dramatically different that we’ve done and I certainly can’t tell you that life has been problem-free. If anything, we’ve had a steady stream of difficult situations to face so far this year.
Every now and then I find myself holding my breath, wondering if the conversation at hand is going to be “the one” that derails this season of peace. I think it’s called waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Then the other day, the Holy Spirit brought this attitude to my attention and told me to stop thinking like that and simply breathe and enjoy this season in my marriage.
So I am.
You may wonder why I’m taking the time to write all of this down or you may even be thinking something a little more cynical or discouraging. I can relate because I’ve been at that place where I wondered if we would ever get to stay at the “for better” part of married life.
Here we are. And I’m telling you this so you’ll have some hope. If the Lord has allowed us to remain in this place where we can’t wait to be together because it’s just so good, God can do that for you, too, dear friend.
So take heart. Remind yourself that “for better” is possible…because God has promised in His Word that whatever we set our hand to will prosper if we obey Him. (from Deuteronomy 30:8-10)
In Jeremiah 29:11, God declares that He has good plans for us…plans to prosper us and not to harm us.
If you’re here reading this, I believe you are interested in seeing God’s promises come to pass for you and your spouse. So put your faith (expectations of what God will do for you!) and your actions together. I believe that our faithful Daddy will lead you to this place, too.
Joyfully,
Rebecca
Thank you so much for writing this! It will always be one of favorites! This is the reason we fight and stand for our marriages so we can get to this point. So this gives us hope.
We have been praying for you and Robert so this gives me joy in another area. I see the fruit of fasting and prayer. Thank You, Lord for answered prayer.
Deborah, Robert and I appreciate your prayers for us! Our lives are definitely the fruit of fasting and prayer…yours, ours, and others on our behalf. Thank you for giving us such a sweet gift. You and Steve remain in my prayers as well!
That was great Rebecca !! Your choice of words ring true of the different seasons in marriage. Those times of sweetness as well as the times of drama.
Robyn, I’m grateful that my story rings true with you. It’s good to know that during those drama-filled seasons that there is an end and sweetness is on its way.
I am very thankful for your post today. I really needed to be reminded of the blessings God has given me, especially the blessing of my husband, Jim. Today is a significant day of the Lord’s redemption in my life, and I need to start seeing it that way instead of a day to be ignored or regretted. I love when the Lord gives me another way to view something. 🙂
Crystal, I’m so grateful that my words reminded you of all of the blessings God has given you! He is so good to us!