Happy Friday Ladies!!!

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” 1 John 4:18

There are times that I have felt unloved by Bill and hurt by his words or careless gestures. I wanted to say, “Stop!” so many times and let him know how I really felt, but feared “punishment” from Bill when I have wanted to share my heart with him. I wish I knew when this seed was planted, but I don’t have a clue. All I know is that I kept my mouth closed because I feared! Feared he would yell at me. Feared he would hate me. Feared he would leave me.

Everyone goes through situations in their life that create fear and I seemed to have a lot of fear in my life. I finally realized one day that I needed help. Then I came across our verse today: “Perfect love casts out fear.”

O.K., where does perfect love come from? I prayed and asked God. I sure wanted this in my marriage. I wanted a husband that thought I was “the only girl in the world,” who loved me unconditionally and recognized that I was a work in progress. I wanted him to extend me grace just as God does.

God showed me that perfect love is found in my relationship with Him not Bill. Bill can’t give me perfect love because he’s not perfect. He has as much work to do as I do! God also showed me that the things I want from Bill, these are things I can give to him and one day I would begin to see the changes in him that I long for.

I John 4:13 states that we have God’s spirit. The Holy Spirit teaches us how to love without fear and please know, you can do this! But as we are learning, don’t be afraid to share with your husband how you really feel about him, especially the good things. Sharing the good things opens the door to trust which opens their hearts to hear ours.

It’s been a few years since this day and I have seen changes in Bill. but there have also been a lot of changes in me. Good changes that please God. Sometime, I can hear God say, “Good job Cherie, Now your getting it”!

I pray this ministers to your hearts and touches right where you are today! Trust God and in time he will give you the marriage and husband you desire.

Lord, you’ve said in your Word that, “There is no fear in love; but he who fears has not been made perfect in love.” I pray you will perfect Your love in each of us so that tormenting fear doesn’t rule our marriages or our hearts! Thank You for Your perfect love for us. In Jesus’ perfect name we pray, Amen!!

Cherie :o)