Many years ago, when I was younger and a whole lot un-wiser . . . there was this boy.

A boy that I just knew was the one.

And one day while pleading for the Lord to work this relationship out, my heart began to ache and this sadness overwhelmed me.

I asked the Lord what this feeling was about.

His response: This is how your heart will feel if you marry this boy.


With God’s grace I opted for a temporarily broken heart so that I would not live a life broken-hearted.

A few years later, there was another boy.

This boy was handsome, and so smart, and funny, and he liked me.

And after much prayer, the Lord showed me that he was the one.

The one special boy to spend my forever with.

So we got married.


The end.

Oh, wait. That only happens in Hollywood, doesn’t it?

Where all women are a size 2 and wake up in the morning with their hair and make-up still intact. And the men, while momentarily insensitive, will move heaven and earth to rectify their blunder.

Hollywood: where life is scripted and love is superficial.

But you and I, we live in the real world.

A world where I am not a size 2 and at this season of my life, rarely have perfectly coiffed hair and flawless make-up. And my dear husband sometimes has no clue how insensitive he has been.

Our reality is that we are two sinners, living in a sinful world.

But the truth is that we are called to love our husbands. Even when we don’t feel like it.

And with the “only do it if it feels good” message that Hollywood sends us, it’s sometimes easy to forget that.

This is God’s reality:

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a
resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can
fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move
mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the
poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I
gain nothing. 

I am nothing and I gain nothing without love.

So how do I love my husband when I don’t feel like it?

By remembering this:

We love because he first loved us. 

With the Lord’s help I am learning the true meaning of unconditional love, not because I’m the Cinderella to his Prince Charming, but because He first loved me.