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Establishing Thoughts - Cherie Zack | Fighting For Your Marriage

Recently I had a conversation of sorts with my husband.

I was trying to respectfully understand the order of his “to-do” list.

But I, well…I really needed him to see that the “to-do” I wanted him to put his attention to should move higher up on his list.

I offered up my bit of logic.

But I sensed he wasn’t buying it.

I started to get upset. I needed him to see the importance of this “to-do.”

The more I thought about his lack of agreement, the more frustrated and angry I got.

And at that moment I was so glad he wasn’t actually there.

Yes, you read that right.

I had an entire conversation, one that even got heated, and I played both roles.

(And now I’m praying that I’m not the only one who has ever done this. Oh, please, please, please tell me I’m not!)

I sit here giggling at the sheer silliness of it all.

But at that moment I couldn’t seem to step back, analyze the situation and deem myself ridiculous.

In the middle of my giggling, I have to recognize the sobriety needed to view this situation correctly.

And what have I realized?

While there was nothing rational about my monologue, more importantly, there was nothing rational about my thoughts.


“ Therefore my anxious thoughts make me answer, Because of the turmoil within me. 

Because of the turmoil within me.

And what led me there?

Because I was not thinking His thoughts.

How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How great is the sum of them! 

But we serve a God who, thankfully, doesn’t allow such performances without His loving discipline.

He is a God who will faithfully show us our faults and failings, while covering us in grace.

For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. 

Had I really had that conversation with my husband, I could have done quite a bit of damage.

Because I had allowed my thoughts to run free my mouth would have, no doubt, followed suit.

Ladies, are your thoughts allowing your mouth to run away from you?

We cannot guard our mouths if we first do not guard our hearts and minds.

Our thoughts toward our husbands need to be the thoughts Christ thinks toward us:

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 

Do your thoughts suggest hope, peace and a future in your marriage?

Ladies, will you let Him establish your thoughts as a wife?

He is so faithfully ready, are you?

Commit your works to the LORD, And your thoughts will be established. 

Establishing my thoughts,