“When I found the one my heart loves, I held him and I would not let him go.” Song of Salomon 3:4
Now that you have the one your heart loves, are you holding on to him and not letting go, no matter what?
Cherie ♥
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Oh yes I am! There are times that I think what am I doing. Our husbands will never be what God is to us. Learning to seek God for those short comings of our husbands will bring him closer to where God wants him.
Thanks for the reminder!! Hugs
Serving with Joy,
Sonya
"No matter what"…that statement is far-reaching…to some it just means overlooking a husband leaving socks lying around…to others, it's enduring the multitude of struggles that comes with living with an alcoholic who refuses to get help. I am so thankful that I have yielded my life to God and that I'm determined His will be done in my life. Without Him, I'm nothing…surrendered to Him…I am His bride. He is truly my everything…no matter what.
With joy!
Cherie
Sonya, you are right. They can't live up to what we want them to be in our minds. This isn't realistic. There will always be something we want to change. I have come to understand that God wants me to love Bill "Unconditionally" just as He loves me. This hasn't been an easy concept to take hold off. I had to make a lot of mistakes in my thought process to finally get what God was trying to teach me all along!
Thank you for commenting!! Your an encouragement to many!! :o)
Cherie,
I have to say first I'm wondering how you pronounce your name. Mine is French.. :o)
I love your comment on my "No Matter What statement". You got exactly what God has been teaching me.. This goes much further than socks as well but God.. He never gives up or walks away from me when I struggle with His guidance..
As I yield to God I find Him always asking me for more.. I've even asked Him "how much more God" in times that I feel I can't give Him any more than I already have. Every time His answers is always "this much Cherie" and some how I'm able to lay myself aside and do what He's asking me to do.
Being a wife isn't easy.. being the wife God has called us too is even harder! But we can do if we are willing to sacrifice or own thoughts and agenda's and even some times our heart!
Thank you Cherie.. Great comment!
I have learned since my husband left 8 weeks ago, that the term loving "no matter what" and "unconditionally" are phrases our society…and even our church don't cling to at all – nor even pretend to understand.
It has amazed me that so many of my brothers & sisters in Christ have ridiculed my stand for my marriage. The concept of comeplete forgiveness and love without condition is foreign…yet it's what they as leaders and teachers in the church are preaching…but they take exception? It grieves me to realize that we have gotten so very far from what God has commanded us. To love each other as we love ourselves.
It goes way beyond dirty clothes on the floor…alcoholism…adultery…abuse…it goes straight to the foot of the cross and seeing Jesus hanging there – knowing that he loved us in our "little" sins just as much as he loved them in their "big" sins. That society has changed our views…we have become lazy and have learned the art of "skilled excuses".
I have begun to abhor the phrases, "God wants you happy." or "God knows you don't deserve to be treated that way."
Oh really? Well, God actually knows that in his eyes, my sin is no less than my husbands…not to him…it still would have hung him on the cross…so those phrases…they mean nothing to me…what God wants for me – is to obey him – and standing strong and fighting for my marriage – NO MATTER WHAT – is the best form of obedience I have to give him.
NO matter what isn't conditional upon the other persons behavior in ANY area. It's just what it says.
NO. MATTER. WHAT.
Well said, Supermanslady!!
Amen!!
I am holding on tight! My dear sweet husband has been suffering with depression for a year now.
I am learning how to be the wife of a totally different man. God is teaching me.
Anonymous, It takes a wife that is willing to listen and seek God first to get through what you are dealing with. I will praying for you and your sweet husband. When times are hard reflect on the reasons you said yes to his proposal! Remember the sweet man God has given and know that God is working this all out for your good!
Please know I don't say this lightly. My husband has dealt with depression as well and our road was a really hard one! But God saw us through and didn't let me go.
Blessings to you and your marriage!
Cherie