Dont Forget The Key Ingrident

Can you imagine baking a cake, but forgetting to put the key ingredient in? Although some of the ingredients may differ, depending on the cake, the end goal is the same, right? However, the key ingredient to making sure the cake is held together is having flour. I can’t imagine trying to bake the cake with only sugar, flavoring, baking powder, eggs, and butter.


The cake would be unbalanced without the right ingredients, however by adding the key ingredient flour to the mixture; I have created a tender, moist, and delicious cake.

As I was thinking of this metaphor, it led me to see how important it is to have the key ingredient of ‘Grace’ within our marriage. God must have thought grace was important within relationships because this is how he expressed his love towards us when we chose to have a relationship with him. Ephesians 2:8 says “God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God.” We did nothing to deserve this gift of grace, but HE was so willing to give it to each of us.

How many times have we needed a little teaspoon or a shovel of grace for our actions?

I know I need a shovel of grace daily. Most of the disappointments we encounter in our marriage stems from not allowing grace to be present. Giving grace isn’t a weakness, it is strength! When we allow God’s grace to flow and extend through us, HE transforms our marriage from the pit of destruction to a beautiful masterpiece that HE intended for it to be. We must desire the best for our husbands, not because we think they deserve it, but because of the very grace we were given when we entered into a relationship with Christ. This should be a reminder of how we should allow grace to flow through us and into our marriage. Just like God’s grace, we do not deserve it, but he so freely gave it to us all. To truly walk in grace and love our husband, we must follow Gods example.

Take the time to reflect on the amount of grace GOD has given you. As we reflect on his immeasurable amount of grace, we must allow the love of GOD to flow through us and empower us to extend grace to our husband without conditions.

Building strong marriages together,

Leanne Ilges


Be encouraged by the following scriptures:

2 Corinthians 12:8-9 “Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me.  But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”

Ephesians 4:7 “But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it.”

1 Peter 4:10 “Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms.”