It’s mid-September and the end of summer is fast approaching. Maybe you are breaking out the autumn clothes and decorations and gearing up for harvest menus–although for me in Central California it is still pretty hot!) Regardless of the average temperature, fall is still approaching, and I, for one, love the change of seasons!
Ecclesiastes 3:1 says,
To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven. (NKJV)
With the arrival of the new season I thought it appropriate to discuss “falling” for our husbands all over again.
What were your hopes, dreams, desires during that first season of your marriage?
Maybe you had goals of laughing, loving, and traveling with your spouse.
You certainly had overwhelming feelings of attraction and love for your husband.
How do you stoke the flames of your passion for your mate?
How do you make a happy marriage more full and exciting?
You can F-A-L-L for your husband all over again.
Yes, ladies, I propose to you that you can exhibit and practice:
Looking for the Lovable
Each of these things will help you “fall” more deeply in love with your husband.
Over the next month we will journey through each of these words together.
Let’s look at fidelity:
Fidelity is, according to Webster, “faithfulness to something to which one is bound by a pledge, by duty, or by a sense of what is right or appropriate.”
This definition certainly fits the example the Bible presents of marriage.
We are bound by a pledge to our husband as we recited our wedding vows.
This helps us draw closer to our mate as we practice fidelity and keep the vows of our marriage in the forefront of our hearts and minds.
Genesis 2:24 says,
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
From the beginning, God designed marriage to be a one flesh union. This union was joined together by God.
So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. The
refore what God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6
One flesh implies that there is not room for anything or anyone else in your marriage.
Fidelity does imply being physically faithful to our spouse, but more than that, fidelity is a heart matter.
There is not room for anyone or anything else.
What place does your husband have in your life?
Is he first, after the Lord Jesus Christ?
We are bombarded with things that pull at us in our everyday lives.
Some that pull at me are kids, homeschooling, work, ministry and self-pleasure.
Fidelity to our husband involves having him in the right place in our hearts and actions.
When he is in the right place, he will feel the deep commitment to him that you made on the day you took your wedding vows.
As a result, this will minister to your husband and your marriage.
He won’t feel like he plays “second fiddle” to the kids or your girlfriends.
It will also change the way you view him.
He will stand a little taller in your eyes as you exhibit and practice fidelity.
Your heart will be undivided and united with his.
This is thrilling to me. It makes me feel like a schoolgirl again with the emotions it can evoke in each of us.
Fall for your husband again!
Show him your loyalty and fidelity in the way you relate to him.
This is pleasing to the Lord and you will find favor in your marriage.
Next week we will look to affirmation but for now, walk “in a sense of what is right or appropriate” as fidelity to your husband.